STOP Doing These 10 Things to Increase Your Feminine Energy

… Have you ever felt this incredible force within you, something powerful, creative, and deeply intuitive? That's your feminine energy. It's the energy of receptivity, of magic, of flow, and yes, even of chaos. So, let's dive right into the ten things you need to stop doing to ignite your feminine energy and step into the most radiant, authentic version of yourself!

… You know that feeling when you want to cry, but you choke it back? 

Or when anger bubbles up, but you bury it deep inside? 

We've all been there, taught to believe that emotions are messy, weak, or inconvenient.

But let me tell you, suppressing your emotions is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater – it takes so much energy, and eventually, it’s going to pop up, often in ways we don't expect. 

Your emotions are your body's way of communicating with you, they hold wisdom, guidance, and incredible power.

So, how do we stop suppressing and start embracing? It starts with giving yourself permission to feel. Let those tears flow, allow yourself to experience the anger, and then, let it go. 

Journaling can be a powerful tool, a safe space to pour out your heart without judgment. And if you're struggling, please know that seeking support is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of courage. Talk to a trusted friend, a therapist, or join a support group.

… How often do you find yourself trying to orchestrate every little detail, white-knuckling your way through life? We live in a culture that praises productivity, efficiency, and having it all together. But the truth is, trying to control everything is exhausting! It disconnects us from the beautiful flow of life and the magic that unfolds when we surrender to something greater than ourselves. Feminine energy is about trust, about allowing things to unfold naturally, even when it feels scary. So, how do we loosen the reins and embrace the unknown? 

Start by practicing surrender. This doesn't mean giving up, it means letting go of the need to micromanage every outcome. Embrace uncertainty. See the beauty in not knowing and trust that even in the twists and turns, you are being guided to where you need to be. Let go of perfectionism.

… Are you the one who always says yes, even when your heart is screaming no? Do you constantly put others’ needs before your own, neglecting your own well-being in the process? This is a pattern I see so often, especially in women. We’re conditioned to be caregivers, nurturers, and pleasers. But darling, you cannot pour from an empty cup. When you constantly prioritize others, you deplete your own reserves, leaving you feeling depleted, resentful, and disconnected from your own needs. It’s time to reclaim your power by setting healthy boundaries. Start saying no with love and without guilt. Remember, saying no to something that doesn't serve you is saying yes to yourself. And practice self-compassion.

… Do you find yourself constantly seeking validation from others? Do you rely on external sources to tell you that you’re good enough, smart enough, pretty enough? Darling, let me tell you something you already know deep down- You are enough, just as you are. Seeking validation outside of yourself is like building your house on rented land. It’s unstable, temporary, and leaves you feeling insecure and unfulfilled. True confidence, true power, comes from within. It starts with self-reflection. Take the time to get to know yourself, to understand your values, your passions, and your dreams. Embrace your uniqueness. You are a beautiful, one-of-a-kind creation. And finally, practice self-validation.

… That inner critic, the one that whispers doubts and fears, the one that points out every flaw and shortcoming – it’s time to quiet that voice. When we’re overly critical of ourselves and others, we create a toxic environment that stifles growth, creativity, and joy. Remember, we’re all on a journey, learning and growing at our own pace. So how do we cultivate more kindness and compassion? It starts with self-awareness. Pay attention to your thoughts. When you catch yourself being critical, pause and ask yourself- Would I say this to a loved one? Practice forgiveness. 

Forgive yourself for past mistakes, forgive others for their shortcomings. Holding onto anger and resentment only hurts you. Practice gratitude. Focus on the good, the beautiful, and the positive. What you focus on expands.

… In the age of social media, it's easy to get caught up in the comparison trap. We scroll through curated feeds, bombarded with images of seemingly perfect lives. But here's the secret- comparison is the thief of joy. When we compare ourselves to others, we diminish our own unique gifts and talents. 

We start to believe that we're not enough, that we need to be more like someone else to be worthy of love and success. But darling, you are a masterpiece, perfectly imperfect in your own right. So how do we break free from the comparison game? It starts with self-awareness. 

Pay attention to the triggers that make you feel inadequate. Is it a certain person, a specific platform, or a particular type of content? Once you identify your triggers, you can start to limit your exposure. Practice self-acceptance. 

Embrace your flaws, your quirks, and your imperfections. They are what make you, you!

… We are often taught that asking for help is a sign of weakness. But let me tell you, darling, it takes courage to admit when you need support. It takes strength to reach out and say, I can’t do this alone. 

Asking for help is not a burden; it’s an act of self-love. It’s acknowledging that you deserve support, guidance, and a helping hand. So, how do we overcome the fear and embrace the power of vulnerability? It starts with practicing vulnerability. 

Start small. Share a challenge with a trusted friend, ask a family member for assistance with a task, or seek guidance from a mentor. Identify your support system. Who are the people in your life who make you feel safe, seen, and heard? Practice active listening.

… Your body is your temple. It’s the vessel that carries you through this journey called life. And yet, so often, we neglect our physical well-being, pushing ourselves to the limit, ignoring our body’s signals, and prioritizing everything else but our own health. 

But here’s the truth- When you nourish your body, you nourish your mind, your heart, and your soul. So how do we start prioritizing our physical well-being? Start with movement. Find an activity that brings you joy and makes you feel alive. It doesn’t have to be strenuous; even a gentle walk in nature can do wonders for your body and soul. 

Nourish your body with whole, unprocessed foods. Listen to your body’s hunger cues and eat when you’re hungry, stop when you’re full. Get enough rest. Sleep is essential for physical and mental restoration.

… The past is gone, the future is uncertain, and yet, so often, our minds are fixated on what was or what might be, robbing us of the present moment, the only moment we truly have. 

When we dwell on past regrets or worry about future uncertainties, we disconnect from the beauty, joy, and possibility that exists right here, right now. So how do we break free from the shackles of the past and the anxieties of the future? 

Engage your senses. Bring your attention to the present moment by noticing the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and sensations around you. Practice gratitude. Focus on what you’re grateful for in this moment. Let go of the past. 

Acknowledge the lessons you’ve learned, forgive yourself and others, and release the need to replay past events. Embrace uncertainty.

… Our thoughts have incredible power. They can either empower us or imprison us. When we engage in negative self-talk, we create self-fulfilling prophecies that limit our potential and keep us stuck in cycles of self-doubt and fear. 

But here’s the good news- You have the power to change your thoughts, and in turn, change your life. So how do we silence the inner critic and cultivate a more positive, empowering inner dialogue? Focus on your strengths. 

What are you good at? What do you enjoy doing? Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Set realistic goals. Start with small, achievable steps that build your confidence and momentum. Surround yourself with positive people.

… Embracing your feminine energy is not about being perfect or fitting into a mold. It's about tapping into your intuition, your creativity, your compassion, and your inner strength. 

Remember, change takes time. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your progress, and don't be afraid to ask for support along the way. So go out there, embrace your feminine energy, and shine your light brightly! 

The world needs your gifts, your talents, and your unique magic.